Frank & Honest

Being nice is not just about not wanting to hurt other ppl's feelings.
At least not anymore. (in my point of view)

Many a times in life, we tend to sugar coat facts or truths when actually it would be a wiser choice or should I say, a nicer thing to do, to simply be frank and honest with someone.

Take for example,
A is a very clingy person and he asks B (his friend) if he's clingy.
But B wanting to be a 'nice' person would say, "no lah, it's just who you are. It's fine."
So in A's mind it is fine to be the way he is, but in actual fact it's not fine.
B should have said, "Yeah, you are clingy. You gotta learn to be more independent :)"
That way, A could reflect & change for the better, no?

(sorry my example sucked. but well, you get the picture)

Besides, if things weren't the way you thought it was,
being frank & honest about the issue gives the other persons a right to defend themselves?
We get to noe and understand better then :) win-win.

They say truth hurts.
Well, dam right they do.
But being hurt and healing from it, is part of life.

Wanting to soften the blows of truth against the ones we care about is normal,
but in the long run, know this: They will suffer more hurt.
So in the end, people will get hurt one way or another.
Why not let them noe earlier for the sake of their well being?
Honesty is [said to be] the best policy.
Give it a shot, the result might surprise you.

Well, it wouldn't be easy.
That's why not many does it.

To knowingly hurt someone dear to you is tough/ troublesome (some would put it).
But at least you know that you will be there for them and that is the real comfort to the person.

*Disclaimer clause:
Life is hard to predict, this point of view is only applicable based on the surrounding circumstances of each case. This blogpost only serves as a food for thought and is mere opinion.

cheers! (:
P/S: if you have a problem with me, tell me!